Ok, I'm not sure what you mean, (like I say, haven't used VS for remote stuff before) so I'll try and elaborate. I have the original version on my local machine (machine A), which I access through local IIS method.
I now have a copy on another computer on the network (machine B), which runs on the machine B IIS. From my local machine VS I have the option to access the copy on machine B by:
a) opening it through File System - which in conjunction with RDM allows me to debug but messes up virtual folder interaction
b) opening though local IIS - when I try this there doesn't seem to be a way to access any IIS outside of my machine, so no help there.
c) through ftp
d) through url of remote site - doesn't work because I don't have frontpage extensions.
route b) does say 'Local Servers' which makes me think you should be able to access more than just the default localhost, but there doesn't seem to be an obvious way to do that?
Sorry if i'm being dense, thanks for your help!